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Stephen ArmstrongLast time we had just started examining the qualifications for overseers in the church in chapter 3, so we return to that list tonight
Remember, an overseer is a general term for anyone who exercises authority over the congregation
The word overseer implies the highest levels of authority
So we’re talking about elders or pastors or any title of leadership that guards over the flock and makes decisions for the body
But we can’t go wrong applying these same standards to lessor leaders
They represent the minimum qualifications for those who aspire to be an overseer
As we mentioned last week, these qualifications seem straightforward enough, but applying them can be a messy affair
No one (save Christ Himself) can meet these qualifications perfectly
So then we must apply these standards with a measure of grace and common sense
In the end, we want to elevate leaders who exemplify the best within the body
So that by their example, the rest of the congregation are inspired to imitate their godliness
In our study last week, we examined the opening verses of chapter 3, but we didn’t get very far
We covered Paul’s opening statement in v.1 and the first three requirements of the 16 listed in vs.2-7
So for context, I’ll reread the entire passage again
But we’ll begin our discussion reviewing the first three briefly
And then we’ll dive into the rest
The first requirement Paul gives is implied more than stated: an overseer must be a man
And as we saw last week, the reasons for this requirement were already addressed in chapter 2
So headship within the family and church requires that the body be led by male authorities
This is true for elders or any other overseer who has authority over men in the body of Christ
Basically, if an overseer has authority over men in the church, then that overseer must be a man as well
Secondly, the overseer must be above reproach
We explained that being above reproach means giving no cause for accusations within the church concerning character or conduct
We want our leaders to be above charges that might distract the church or sully the name of Christ
I said last week that this requirement includes both present and past behavior, including behavior committed prior to faith
But in applying this standard we must judge all past behaviors with grace, knowing that no one possesses a perfect testimony especially before faith
Thirdly, we studied Paul’s command that an overseer be a man of one wife
I gave a variety of interpretations of Paul’s words
But the best interpretation I believe, the one in keeping with the spirit of the entire list, is that an overseer must practice moral marriage
Moral marriage means modeling the one-flesh relationship given in scripture
This precludes polygamy, adultery, divorce, or fornication
With that we’re ready to move into the rest of Paul’s list
The fourth requirement is that an overseer must temperate
Temperate means to be sober, measured, clear-headed, balanced
Just as we say a climate is temperate to mean it doesn’t experience extremes in weather
So temperate means remaining in control and balanced in all things
The word in Greek for temperate is nephalios, and it carries the suggestion of sobriety
The root of the word is nepho, which means to abstain from alcohol
But the word nephalios doesn’t mean to abstain, and unfortunately the word temperance has been misused this way
Paul will address the issue of drinking more specifically in a moment, so we’ll wait to talk more about it then
For now, we should focus on the other aspects of this important quality of leaders
Temperate means slow to anger, not prone to outbursts or rash behavior...
Not easily thrown off track or manipulated...
Even keeled
The last thing we want is for the body of Christ to be led by men who are impulsive or emotionally charged
Next Paul says we want our overseers to be prudent men
Prudence is the natural compliment to temperate
A temperate person remains calm and in control no matter what comes their way
While a prudent person responds in well-considered and measured ways, in every situation
The Greek word for prudent also means self-controlled, so you can clearly see a trend in Paul’s thinking
He wants the church to select men who aren’t going to say or do impulsive things
Because where leaders go, so goes the body of Christ
Our leaders are supposed to create a climate within the body where we can grow and mature
Unpredictable and rash leaders are not conducive to such an environment
Furthermore, Paul adds the man must be respectable
In Greek the word means orderly or proper
It describes someone with a sense of seriousness about their duty
They conduct themselves in a somewhat formal, dignified manner
Not stiff or humorless, but neither should they be silly
Take these three together (temperate, prudent and respectable), and you begin to imagine a man of distinction
A man who is reserved and always in control
A man with gravitas who commands respect
Men don’t come out of the womb this way
We all start as children and must grow up
An overseer is that man who has outgrown the impulsive nature of his youth and has learned from his mistakes
So that now he has obtained the maturity to lead
Now Paul moves to traits that serve others beginning with hospitable
The word in Greek is philoxenos, which means literally to love strangers
It’s the counterpart to philadelphia, which is love for a brother
When we hear hospitable, we usually think of hospitality in our homes
And certainly this is an important aspect of this requirement
We want our leaders to have an openness for serving others using everything they have at their disposal
And that’s really the full sense of this term
It describes a man’s desire to meet the needs of others, including those with whom he has no relationship yet
It’s more than simply being polite
It’s essential to the mission of the church that our leaders would have open hearts, open houses and open wallets for the needs of those they lead
Including for those they don’t even know yet
Like Jesus demonstrated, our service to the Great Commission often turns on our willingness to extend kindness to the least of our society
Next, Paul says the overseer must be able to teach, and of course Paul means implicitly to teach scripture
Therefore, a man seeking to be an overseer must demonstrate he is able to teach the Bible
And teaching involves two qualifications
First, the man must have an understanding of scripture sufficient to explain it and defend against error
In Titus, Paul provides a similar list for an overseer, and in that list he elaborates on this requirement
Paul says the overseer must hold fast to to the true teaching of the word according to the Apostle’s teaching
In our day, the New Testament letters are the teaching of the Apostles
Therefore, an overseer must possess an abiding and orthodox understanding of scripture as revealed in the NT
And they will use that understanding to exhort the people and to refute the false claims that come against God’s word
Paul includes this requirement in the middle of the list, so we might think it of only average importance
But this isn’t correct
Paul’s instructions to Timothy later in the letter will make clear that the ability to teach is probably the highest trait of an overseer
Guarding the flock from false teaching is paramount, for the body of Christ is united and empowered by its understanding of God’s word
Today, the average Christian in the world is biblically illiterate, knowing almost nothing about what’s in the Bible or what it means
This situation is a direct result of overseers who do not understand or value the word themselves
And so they do not guard it nor teach it methodically
Paul will address this very trend later in his second letter to Timothy
Paul’s next requirement is that an overseer not be addicted to wine, which we can generalize to any alcohol beverage or other mind-altering substance
The issue isn’t the alcohol itself, of course, for even Jesus drank wine
And He promised His disciples He would share a cup of wine with them in the Kingdom
Furthermore, Paul writing later in this letter under the leading of the Spirit prescribes medicinal wine for Timothy
Paul’s focus is on the word addicted
Addiction is a loss of self-control over the desires of our flesh
Addiction is proof to us that our flesh has gained a victory over our spirit in an area of our life
All believers are engaged in a life-long struggle against the flesh and the sin it produces as Paul describes in Romans
Our fight against our flesh is a battle between our new perfect spirit and our fallen flesh
And this fight is tough enough as it is without giving our flesh an extra advantage
Alcohol or drug addictions are evidence that the flesh has gained a foothold, which means our spirit is less in control
Obviously, we want our leaders to be under the Spirit’s leading to the greatest extent possible
So a serious addiction to alcohol or drugs is a disqualifying character trait
And it matters not if a drug is legalized
Certainly, the willingness to use illegal drugs is disqualifying by itself since it demonstrates dishonest character
But even the use of legal drugs will disqualify a man if they gain control over him
And certainly some drugs are so powerful they should be avoided even when legal since the danger of addiction is high
The lesson here is to know your limits and weaknesses so you can avoid a misstep that may carry significant consequences
Moving on, let’s take the next three items together: “not pugnacious but gentle and peaceable”
We could lump these together as one requirement, since the first is the opposite of the others
But let’s examine each independently, starting with not being pugnacious
The Greek word for pugnacious is pletes, which means a striker
The word appears only here and in Paul’s similar list in Titus
We could just as easily translate the word to mean violent or prone to physical outbursts
So I assume it’s self-evident you can see why we wouldn’t want leaders who are pugnacious or violent
Men prone to violence are the literally the opposite of what we want
Which is why Paul says we want men who exhibit gentleness
The word in Greek translated gentleness is also interesting
It can be used to describe someone who quietly suffers an offense
I’m reminded of the way a larger, older dog will sit patiently while a young puppy grabs at his ears or bites his tale
That’s the sense of what Paul says we want in our overseers
And speaking as a pastor, I can completely identify with this requirement
An overseer in the church (or a leader in any organization) walks around with a target on his back
Most of the time, the slings and arrows that come our way are thrown by the very flock we’re supposed to feed and guard and care for
So if an overseer doesn’t have a thick skin and a willingness to suffer slights and insults from time to time, he won’t survive very long
He needs to be gentle in how he responds to the body he leads
When someone comes against him harshly, he needs to have a nature that assumes positive intent and doesn’t take offense easily
He must be prepared to respond with a kind word when lessor men might have issued a sharp rebuke
He can’t worry about defending his pride or ego because he knows there are more important objectives
Finally, the man should be peaceable
The word in Greek is a bit humorous, especially for those of us who live in a Hispanic culture
The Greek word is amachos, pronounced am'-akh-os
But it looks like a-machos, as in not macho, which is actually a good definition of the word
It means to abstain from fighting or contentiousness
It’s an attitude opposite to that of a bully
Here again it makes perfect sense that our leaders shouldn’t be men who are prone to bullying people to get their way
Nor should their style of influence be based on intimidation or threats
Taken together with gentleness and not being pugnacious we can see clearly the kind of leader Paul is describing
Perhaps he’s like a grandfather, the strong but silent type
Our leaders should epitomize the man Rudyard Kipling describes in his immortal poem “If”
As part of the poem goes...
The next requirement is one many men struggle to meet, especially in our world today
An overseer must be free from the love of money
The Greek word translated love is actually the word for covet
So Paul’s concern is for a man who covets material wealth
He desires money and the things money can buy
Paul’s concern is for the man’s attitude toward wealth, not necessarily with wealth itself
An overseer may be rich or poor
Yes, a rich man can have an unhealthy love of riches, but then again so can a poor man
On the other hand, a godly rich man may be generous with his riches just as a poor man can find contentment in his poverty
The question is whether a potential overseer is preoccupied with obtaining and retaining wealth such that it interferes with his ability to steward the church of God
For example, does he manipulate others or use his office to enrich himself?
The overseers of Israel in Jesus’ day did exactly this thing
Which is why the scriptures report that the Pharisees were lovers of money but not of God
As Jesus Himself said, you can’t serve God and money at the same time
The desire for one will inevitably lead a person away from the other
The present waste land of prosperity teachers and the millions they’ve deceived are testimony to the truth of Christ’s words
Since both poor and rich men can be lovers of money, how can we judge this quality in a prospective overseer?
Amassing wealth or possessing nice things doesn’t automatically mean a man is covetous
Ironically, a healthy savings account or a nice car could be evidence that the man is careful with his money
That’s an admirable quality in a leader and it may be a skill the church needs
So we can’t be too quick to judge on this issue
Like all character traits, a man’s attitude toward wealth is something we come to understand by getting to know him
Everyone has a desire for money at least to some degree
But desire doesn’t constitute a “love” of money
So here are some warnings signs to watch for in a prospect overseer
Is he generous to others?
Does he live a relatively modest lifestyle, one that’s within their means?
Does he manage his own money well enough not to be a burden on others or is he always struggling to make ends meet?
It’s worth the time required to understand a man’s heart on this issue
So many church bodies have suffered grave damage from men who cared only about this world and what it offered
In vs.4-5 Paul gives one of the more controversial qualifications for an overseer
He says an overseer must manage his own home well
Managing the home is a broad concept that includes many things
But it begins with the basic idea of leading in the home
The Bible teaches that men are the spiritual leaders in their families and in the church
Therefore, before a man may be judged ready to lead the church, he should already be leading in the home
Proper management in the home should look very much the same as in the church
A potential overseer ought to demonstrate all these same qualities before his family
As Paul says in v.5, an overseer’s approach to leading in his home is a good indication of what he will do in managing the church family
This principle holds true because the situations an overseer faces in the church are often very similar to those faced by a husband and father
Churches need order and structure, just like families
Churches need budgets and priorities, like families
Churches experience disputes that must be resolved without sacrificing relationships, just like families
Churches must make time to celebrate one another, to practice discipline in love, and to mourn without losing hope
In these ways and many more, the leader of a church must apply the same skills and sensibilities as a good father or husband
Finally, Paul adds that this man must keep his children in control with all dignity
There are two parts to this requirement, one we usually see easily but another we often overlook
We could translate Paul’s phrase as “maintaining obedient children without losing his dignity”
We want overseers who demonstrate they have the ability to maintain control over their children
This is an excellent test of their fitness for the job
Children are inherently undisciplined
They exit the womb lacking self-control
Therefore, self control must be learned, but unfortunately not every child receives training in maintaining self-control
So we want leaders who have an appreciation for self-control and submission to authority and train their children to share that attitude
Judging this qualification is subjective, since everyone has slightly different standards in the home
And every child makes bad choices and experiences rebellious moments
But generally his children should demonstrate love for their parents, a heart of obedience and respect for authority
They should respond appropriately when corrected and show a sincere desire to do the right thing
Given the lax parenting standards in our culture today, it’s getting increasingly difficult to find men who meet this standard
But it gets even harder when we apply the second part of Paul’s requirement
The man must maintain control over his children without losing his dignity
If he gains his control through physical or verbal abuse...
Or if he must plead and bargain and negotiate to get his children to obey his word...then he has lost his dignity
Of course, we can see why such things would disqualify a leader over the church
Resorting to abuse or negotiation is proof that a person lacks an appreciation for authority
If a father must rely on inappropriate physical force or on unnecessary negotiation, then he won’t have the respect of his children
A father’s word should be sufficient to drive a child’s behavior
Of course, discipline is a necessary part of training a child to respect a father’s word
But applied correctly, it generally isn’t necessary for long
That’s the kind of leadership we want in the church
The final two requirements are found in vs.6-7, where Paul says the man may not be a new convert to the faith, and needs possess a good reputation outside the church
To ignore these requirements brings the possibility of two similar pitfalls
Elevating a man into leadership too early could lead the man to follow in Satan’s footsteps
Paul’s referring to Satan’s own fall, which Ezekiel says was the result of pride resulting from the the special position Satan held
Paul doesn’t give a specific length of time since conversion because this qualification isn’t merely a mathematical calculation
It’s a matter of the heart
We don’t want to elevate a man into a position of honor and authority in the church until he is wise and mature enough to handle the responsibility
We want a man who has pursued sanctification in his walk with Christ long enough to have gained the benefits of it
Specifically, he’s gained the spiritual strength to resist any temptation to self-importance or conceit
The issue is partly one of physical age but more so of spiritual maturity
In situations where the pickings are slim like a new church in a remote location, an outside authority may select leaders closest to the goal
Lastly an overseer must possess a good reputation outside the church
Earlier Paul said this man must be above reproach, which meant no one in the church could bring a charge against the man
Now Paul extends that to the unbelieving world
In the first case Paul wanted the church to be sensitive to accusations against the man that might have substance behind them
In this case Paul is concerned about public accusations regardless of whether they are true
He says he doesn’t want the overseer to fall into reproach, or disgrace, or the snare of the devil
Paul’s speaking of both fact and fiction
If an overseer has a bad reputation in the public eye, then either he has real character issues
Or there is substance and he may feel pressure to cover up the false accusations
In either case, the church can’t afford to have leaders that cause a public sensation which may detract from the mission
So we should pass over men who are controversial or notorious whether justified or not
It may not be fair, especially in cases where they are falsely accused
But the mission of the church is more important than one man’s opportunity to lead
By the way, this requirement argues against church leaders becoming prominent in politics or societal movements apart from the Gospel
We want leaders to remain quietly focused on leading the flock and reaching the world for Christ
Too much notoriety is unhelpful because the enemy will take advantage of any opportunity to bring church leaders to ruin
So those sixteen requirements, when properly applied, will result in the strongest possible leaders for the church
But remember, these requirements are standards of godliness for all Christians
We want our leaders to model the highest possible standard
But all believers are expected to imitate their leaders in adopting these same attributes
So don’t assume that only overseers needs strive for these things
Keep that in mind as we look at the second list in this chapter, that of the position of deacon
Last week I explained that the position of deacon is a title of service in the body of Christ, not a title of authority
A deacon is someone who leads by example in serving the body
And in that sense, they occupy a leadership position
But they do not exercise authority over the body overall
In many churches today, the position of deacon is either misapplied or is absent altogether
Deacons are sometimes assigned authority over the body, which is not in keeping with Paul’s instructions
If they have authority over the body, they should be called overseers or perhaps elders
This would allow a true deacon position to emerge in the church
But in most churches, no one receives the title of deacon
Instead, we use other titles like “director” or committee chairman, etc.
These roles are service roles, where the person has responsibility to oversee the work of the church in some capacity
So overseers oversee people, while deacons oversee work
Paul gives requirements for deacons, both men and women
He gives 8 qualifications for the men and 4 for the women
The two groups address similar ideas
The differences relate to the different roles of men and women in the church and family
Paul begins with men of dignity
Dignified refers to carrying oneself in a holy, serious or reverent way within the church
Deacons are not silly men
They are men worthy of respect in the body
Secondly they are no double-tongued
The word in Greek can be translated insincere
We don’t want those leading the work of the church to be untrustworthy in what they report to the leaders
They will be entrusted with resources and they will direct people in accomplishing work
So they must be trustworthy
The next two requirements are similar to two requirements for overseers
A deacon cannot be in addiction nor seeking for wealth in inappropriate ways
We don’t need to explain those further except to note that even those who aren’t in leadership over others need to guard against such things
The next two requirements are test of maturity
Paul says deacons must hold to the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience
This requirement is a lessor form of “able to teach”
It means to have a firm conviction that the doctrines of the church, as taught by the overseers, are true
The deacons aren’t expected to have the same depth of understanding as an overseer
And therefore they aren’t called to teach, since they aren’t occupying an authority position
But they are expected to operate in harmony with their convictions on the doctrines of the faith
So we wouldn’t elevate someone to deacon if they don’t understand the core beliefs of Christianity or if they have doubts about the elder’s teaching
Furthermore, they must be tested or approved to make sure they are beyond reproach
This requirement is a companion to the elder requirement
The difference is an overseers past is on the table
But for the deacon the issue is his present condition
So we test or approve a deacon to see if they are blameworthy or blameless in some way
Next we move to qualifications for female deacons
Deacons can be men or women because the position is not a position of authority over the congregation
Not only does Paul describe qualifications for the position here
But he mentions a deaconess serving in the church in Cenchrea in Romans 16:1
Moving to the qualifications for women deacons, Paul expects them to meet the same basic character qualifications as men
First in v.11 they must also be dignified as the men
Then Paul adds they must not be malicious gossips
The phrase in Greek means to share inappropriate details about others in the church with an intent to do them harm
I find it curious that Paul didn’t list mere gossiping as disqualifying for a woman (perhaps that would have ruled out too many?)
The ones Paul is concerned about are those who have engaged in the behavior with a desire to hurt someone
Obviously a woman so spiritually immature that she purposely hurts other in the church is in no position to lead works of faith
She needs time to grow in the grace and knowledge of Christ first
Lastly, a female deacon is to exhibit a temperate, faithful disposition
We talked already about temperance
And the word in Greek for faithful means literally stable and reliable
Both words together suggest a woman who isn’t flighty or shrill but calm, measured and quiet
Remember, Paul is working in this letter to strengthen Timothy’s church against false teachers who had led women astray
So it makes sense that Paul wanted women elevated into leadership positions of service to the body
But he wanted the right kind of woman serving to counter the negative influence of the women deceived by false teaching
Returning to the men, Paul asks that the deacons be husbands of one wife and good managers of their homes
Once again, these qualifications mirror those of the overseers and for all the same reasons
It’s interesting to wonder why women deacons didn’t have the same requirements
And the answer is that women had little responsibility in these areas in the family
Women had no legal standing in marriage, so they couldn’t initiate a marriage much less a divorce
So if a woman was to practice a godly marriage, it depended on the husband to ensure that outcome
Likewise, the father had authority over the household, so if the children were unruly, it was to the father’s shame, not the mother’s
Paul ends this section with a statement that forms a bookend with v.1
In v.1 he said that a man who aspired to be an overseer was seeking a good work
That good work was the work of pursuing godliness in his life
And by that pursuit he could qualify himself to hold a position of authority
Now in v.13 Paul says that those who have served well as deacons will gain a high standing and great confidence
High standing could also be translated high rank
Furthermore, great confidence could be phrased more boldness
So for an overseer, the position itself is recognition of having obtained a superior testimony of godliness
But for a deacon, it is his or her years of service that will result in great honor
And that honor comes in two parts
First, the deacon will have high rank in the faith that is in Christ Jesus
At the very least, high rank means accolades among those in the church
But Paul’s choice of words seems to be a reference to the eternal rewards that come to those who serve Christ well
The “rank” could refer to the deacon’s place in the kingdom
Secondly, the deacon who serves well will gain greater boldness or confidence in the faith they enjoy in Christ Jesus
While they may have begun with only a moderate confidence in their faith, that is in the doctrines and assurances of Christ
But now after years of faithful service, they will find their confidence and boldness increased
They will have greater certainty in the faithfulness of Christ and in the promise of good things to come
How does this happen? This is a basic truth of scripture...that serving God is the surest way to strengthen your faith in Him and in His Word
Because as you serve God, you will inevitably confront difficulties and challenges that you can’t solve yourself
But the Lord will show up and show Himself strong time and time again
And as He does, you gain great confidence in Him and His Word
It’s like a child who works closely with his or her father in chores around the house or in chores or a family business
Working side by side with a parent is the best way to get to know them and to trust them
Serving the Lord is an opportunity to know the Master
Serving can’t replace knowing Him in His Word, but it’s a catalyst for sanctification
Those who serve as deacons will see a reward of sanctification leading to an eternal reward