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Stephen ArmstrongLet’s jump right back into the intrigue as Abner, the commander of Ish-bosheth’s army in the north, has decided to throw his support behind David in the south
He took the bold step of having one of the king’s concubines for himself, and when Ish-bosheth found out, he confronted Abner
Abner responded indignantly and defensively, and he succeeded in intimidating Ish-bosheth into silence
But Abner knows his position advising the king is in jeopardy so Abner sends word to David that he’s ready to switch sides
Abner says he will throw his support behind David and promises to deliver the loyalty of the northern tribes to David
David responds cautiously by asking Abner to prove himself first
David demands that Abner send David’s first wife, Michal (incorrectly stated in the audio as Abigail), back to him as proof he has authority and influence in the north
Abner agrees and sends Michal back, so now it’s time for Abner to make good on his promise to deliver the north to David
That leads us to v.17 as Abner visits the elders of the northern tribes of Israel
Abner approached the elders of Israel, likely without Ish-bosheth knowing, to convince them to give their allegiance to David
Abner’s primary argument was two-fold
First, Abner reminds them David was their first choice
Apparently, the northern tribes had been inclined to follow David rather than Ish-bosheth in the first place
And this makes some sense, because David was a hero in Israel
David dominated Israel’s chief enemy, the Philistines, and in the process he had earned the respect of the people
Moreover, everyone knew that the reverend prophet, Samuel, had anointed David to be Saul’s successor
So when Saul died, many if not all the tribes in the north were prepared to throw their support behind David…until Abner intervened
And that makes this meeting especially ironic, because now it’s Abner seeking to win them back to David
So Abner is working to undo what he previously worked to achieve
Secondly, Abner reminds them that David was God’s anointed warrior to defeat the Philistines, after Saul failed in that regard
Abner was saying the way to defeating Israel’s chief enemy was to support the one man who could beat them
And this comment leads Abner to now turn his attention specifically to the tribe of Benjamin
Notice in v.19 he addresses the elders of Benjamin because Saul was a Benjamite as was Ish-bosheth
So it was especially important to win them over
The diplomacy works and the elders agree it’s better to support David at this point than Ish-bosheth, and it’s not a hard call
Remember, in v.1 we were told that the house of David was growing steadily while the house of Ish-bosheth was weakening
These men are nothing if not pragmatic
They do not want to back the losing side, and now that it seems clear David will prevail, they decide it’s better late than never
So they are simply making a decision of self-preservation to support the winner while they still have time
Finally, the elders send a delegation to David under Abner’s leadership to strike covenant with David
A covenant is always a life-long commitment which is punishable by death if broken
It is formally established with a blood sacrifice, and since an animal is killed in the process, it leads to a feast as well
So in v.20 we see the men sitting down with David to eat as part of the covenant ceremony promising David is their king
And at the conclusion of the meal, David sends Abner away in peace, which is an important phrase
It means that David has now entered into a covenant with Abner obligating David to protect Abner in exchange for Abner’s loyalty
Effectively, David has now promised that he will not harm the commander of his enemy’s army
This is one of many head-scratching moments for those around David
Who pledges to protect the leader of his enemy’s military forces?
And that’s exactly what the leader of David’s military forces asks when he finds out what David has done
Joab is a chief commander of David’s forces in the south, and we were first introduced to Joab in Chapter 2 at the pool of Gibeon
Joab was one of three brothers who joined together in battling Abner after a failed peace negotiation
In the course of that battle, Abner killed Asahel, Joab’s brother, so naturally Joab wants his revenge on Abner
But after returning from a raid of Amalekites bringing much spoil, Joab learns that Abner had just been in the camp with David
Joab is frustrated that he missed his chance to kill Abner
More than that, he learns that David entered into a covenant of peace with Abner, which makes him even angrier
So Joab approaches David declaring that he has entered into the covenant by mistake and that Abner is just deceiving David
Abner was simply spying on David and his forces to learn his movements and strength of forces, Joab argues
And it’s hard to tell if this is Joab’s true concern or if he’s simply making a case for killing Abner despite the covenant
Besides his anger at Abner for killing Asahel, Joab might also have been concerned about losing his job to Abner
Abner was likely expecting to be rewarded for brokering the peace with the position of commander of the army
That would have threatened Joab’s job security
So Joab decides to take matters into his own hands
Joab sends messengers to Abner asking him to return, so Abner comes back thinking that the king has sent for him
As he reaches Hebron, Abner is met by Joab at the gate of the city, where Joab stabs Abner fatally
This is Joab’s revenge for killing his brother, but in the process Joab has placed the southern kingdom and David’s rule at great risk
David had entered into a covenant of peace with Abner, and now David’s commander had killed Abner in violation of the covenant
Not only might David be accused of violating his oath to Abner but also of breaking his peace accord with the northern tribes
David’s chance to be king of Israel is now suddenly in jeopardy because of the selfish actions of his commander
The conflict between David and Joab illustrates the challenge David faces in governing the Israel he will inherit
Historically, this is an Israel that did what was right in its own eyes, going back to the days of Judges and ever before that under Moses
This nation is stiff-necked, rebellious, prone to wandering and generally unwilling to obey the Lord’s commandments
They came out of Egypt worshipping idols and once in the land they came under the influence of Canaanite idolatry
So naturally when someone kills a man’s brother, the only response the people understand is revenge killing
So clearly the people’s ways are not God’s ways, which means they also struggle to understand David, a man after God’s own heart
David continually does the thing that the people wouldn’t do, as in this case where David makes peace with his enemy
Of course, this is one of the primary ways King David pictures Jesus as King, as Jesus makes peace with His enemies too
Jesus forgives those who hate God, and He does so purely as an act of His grace
But Joab was like the people and not like God, so he couldn’t understand David’s ways nor was he willing to let David’s decision stand
So now it’s time to see how David responds to this egregious affront to David’s power and authority
And once again, David does the unexpected
And once again, David does the unexpected by not retaliating against Joab in the way most would have expected
First, David distances himself from Joab’s actions, and this was an absolute necessity
David must make clear to the northern tribes and even to his own tribe that he would not go back on his word to Abner
And to do that David issues a punishment for Joab but it isn’t the expected response
Typically, a king in David’s position would simply have taken Joab’s head and been done with it
And in fact, David’s son, Solomon, eventually does kill Joab after David dies in revenge for Joab’s actions
But David doesn’t take that route and instead allows Joab to live
Instead, David asks the Lord to bring Joab’s family to ruin through one calamity or another
Either they will die violently, live in poverty, suffer a chronic disease like leprosy, or they will take hold of a distaff
A distaff is a spindle for weaving cloth, which implies the work of a widows or a man in slavery
It’s a harsh curse that means the eventual wasting away of Jaob’s family tree
David apparently decided to indict the whole family because in v.30 we’re told Joab’s brother also conspired in Abner’s death
The brothers acted against the king’s authority so the entire family would pay a severe price
In fact, David’s curse on Joab’s family is a much more devastating punishment than simply killing Joab outright would have been
And it’s also more purposeful because it creates a lasting testimony and witness
For as long as Joab’s family is around, people in Israel will be able to look at their circumstances and remember Joab’s sin
And by that testimony, Joab’s folly is remembered, David’s righteousness is acknowledged and the Lord’s power is seen
David is confident that the Lord can deal out justice in a better way, and here again we see David acting after God’s heart
Because this is the way the Lord deals out revenge against His enemies
It’s how the Lord turns something evil into good for His purposes in Israel while holding the guilt under punishment
This is what Paul means when he tells us to leave room for the wrath of God when confronting our enemies or adversaries
Appeal to the Lord for protection and let Him decide how it should be handed out and when
It’s better for three reasons…first, we remain innocent having not sinned through retribution of one kind or another
Secondly, the Lord’s style of punishment is always better than ours since He has far more options at His disposal
Thirdly, the Lord can turn the situation to good in ways we can’t, perhaps even leading the person to repent and reconcile
This principle lies at the heart of the Christian call to forgive our enemies
We don’t take revenge because we are supposed to leave room for God to use our circumstances to further the Gospel
Every moment of our lives is supposed to be a Gospel advancing moment, including moments of conflict
We rob God of those moments when we take our own revenge
David’s willingness to leave revenge to the Lord was an example of David having a heart after God’s own heart
But it confused and frustrated others around him who didn’t know the Lord or understand the Lord’s heart
So men like Joab couldn’t understand David when he extended mercy to men like Abner
But ironically, that same heart of mercy came to Joab’s aid in a moment like this as David allowed him to live
So by the curse, David makes clear this was entirely Joab’s family’s doing, but to make sure everyone knew this was true, David conducts an elaborate funeral
David directs Joab and everyone else with him in Hebron to engage in a period of public mourning for Abner
They tear their clothes and wear sackcloth as symbols of mourning
And when the funeral procession took place, David himself walked behind Abner’s bier carrying his body
Then when they reached the gravesite in Hebron, David wept loudly and publicly for Abner
And all the people at the funeral mourned as well, loudly proclaiming Abner’s death
Then David leads the eulogy for Abner with a chant
David laments Abner dying as a fool dies at the hands of criminals rather than as a war hero
David’s emphasizing that Abner’s death was not the result of a conflict between the north and the south
Rather his death was a criminal act of violence committed by an individual
Finally, in v.35 we learn David has been fasting, probably since Abner died, so now that he has been buried the people urge David to eat
But David refuses saying he will not eat until the end of that day
David’s devotion to mourning Abner strikes the people as admirable and praise-worthy
And in v.36 we’re told that this pleased the people as did everything David did in mourning Abner
This entire episode was designed by David to convince everyone of his innocence and to distance himself from Joab’s actions
It was a public state funeral designed to honor Abner as a state hero in the hope of convincing the northern tribes to stay
And when v.36 says it pleased the people, the point is that the funeral had the intended effect
In fact, notice in v.37 the writer tells us that all the people knew from that day forward that David was not responsible
David pulled victory out of the jaws of defeat and has saved his kingdom from a disastrous start
David’s mourning may have been over the top, but it wasn’t insincere
Because in v.38 David acknowledges that Abner was a prince and a great man who has fallen
And Abner was certainly that…a prince in the sense of a man of great authority working in support of kings
Despite having opposed David, he ultimately threw his support behind David
And as an advisor to David, Abner could have been a very powerful and useful counselor to the new king
Finally, David says in v.39 that he is weak, perhaps a reference to having fasted but also to the weariness of starving for his throne
Joab and his brother are too difficult for David, meaning they are headstrong and unwilling to fall in line
So David repeats that he will wait on the Lord to deal with these evildoers
Ironically, David’s personal weakness forced him to rely on the Lord to defend him
And in the long run, that dependence upon the Lord became a source of David’s strength as a leader
Now we move into Chapter 4, and as we do, we find the narrator planting seeds for important moments that follow later in the story
Back in the north, Ish-bosheth hears the story of Abner and it disturbs him
Remember, he probably didn’t know that Abner had been negotiating with David in the first place
So Ish-bosheth learned not only that his commander is dead but that before he died he had entered into a covenant with David
And even worse than that, he has heard that the elders of his tribes are ready to throw their support to David
So naturally, all this news takes away Ish-bosheth’s courage, which simply means the guy is afraid and panicked
Not only is his short-lived kingdom at risk, so is his life
Disposed kings typically don’t live long, and he knows it
In fact, the obstacles to David’s rule over Israel are falling like dominos
Saul is dead, Jonathan is dead as are Saul’s other two sons
And now the commander of the northern forces is gone
So now there are only two possible heirs to Saul’s throne; Ish-bosheth and Jonathan’s son, Mephibosheth
Mephibosheth is briefly introduced in v.4 where we learn he was crippled from an early age
His nurse fled with the body when the news of Saul and Jonathan’s death came from the Jezreel
She was afraid that with the king’s passing, his family might be at risk
But in her haste, she dropped the baby and likely broke a limb, which caused him to be lame the rest of his life
We learn more about Mephibosheth in Chapter 9, but the point for now is that David’s challengers for the throne are few and fading fast
A lame boy is no threat to David’s rule, so if Ish-bosheth were to die, there would be nothing to stop David’s ascent to the throne
That’s why Ish-bosheth is troubled, as is all Israel because they wonder what Ish-bosheth might do to hold on to power
And then in v.2 we hear of two brothers who decide to force the issue
We’re introduced to two military commanders, Baanah and Rechab, from the tribe of Benjamin
They lived in Beeroth, which was a town outside the territory of Benjamin yet these men were of the tribe of Benjamin
These men begin to plot against Ish-bosheth
In v.5 we’re told they go to Ish-bosheth in the heat of the midday when it was customary for people to take an afternoon nap
The heat made everyone tired and made work hard, so people just went into the shade somewhere and slept
When the sun had dropped and the winds picked up, they re-emerged to finish the day
This pattern gave these men the opportunity they needed to attack and since they were part of the army, they raised no suspicions
In v.6 we’re told they came into Ish-bosheth’s house pretending to come for a supply of wheat and attacked him with a knife
Then in v.7 we get the details…they found their way to his bedroom struck him and then beheaded him as well
They escaped taking the man’s head and traveled through the Arabah, which is the Jordan river valley
Having reached Hebron, they now complete their mission by bringing Ish-bosheth’s head to the king
In v.8 they present it to David quite proudly declaring that the Lord has given David the head of Ish-bosheth
This is the son of the man who wanted to kill you, they say, and therefore you now have vengeance this day on Saul
Once again this is how the world thinks and sees the situation
They saw Saul attacking David, and so they thought that David would be happy to see that man and his son die
But remember that David did not view Saul as his enemy, because Saul was the Lord’s anointed leader for Israel and David honored that
Moreover, David made a covenant with Jonathan before he died that when David became king he would protect Saul’s house
David promised to protect Saul’s descendants out of love for Jonathan, which was not typical when dynasties changed
But here again, David was doing what men didn’t expect because he had a heart to do as God would do
So David was bound to honor Ish-bosheth and Mephibosheth by a covenant that David took seriously
But these men made the same mistake that the Amalekite made in assuming David wanted revenge
So once more David has to teach these men the same lesson
David begins swearing by the Lord who has redeemed David’s life from all stress, and that’s an important preface for what follows
David is declaring that he doesn’t need rogues like these men seeking to avenge David, because the Lord has his back
The Lord has protected David from Saul for over a decade of running and David had plenty of chances to avenge himself
But he purposely declined to attack or harm Saul because David respected the Lord’s choice to allow the attacks
That’s a man after God’s own heart…a man who looked past the moment and tried to understand what God was doing through it
David knew the Lord had promised David the throne one day, and if the Lord promised it, David didn’t need to force it
Moreover, David trusted that the Lord had good purpose in holding the throne back from David for a time
In hindsight, David probably understood that those years running in the desert produced great maturity and understanding
David learned prayer, patience, resourcefulness, and leadership
He wrestled with his flesh and gained important skills
He wrote most of the psalms and most of all, learned to rely on the Lord in times of adversity
So now with that hindsight, David realizes it’s more important for him to keep his word and wait for God than to force his own outcomes
And when he’s confronted with men who act sinfully in his name, David is especially upset
So ironically, as these men claimed to be gaining David’s revenge against Saul, in the end David executes Saul’s revenge on them
In v.10 David reminds these men of what he did to the Amalekite who came to report that Saul had died in battle
That news earned the man a death sentence, which David called his “reward”
So then David looks at these men and asks what will I do to those who kill a righteous man in his own bed?
David calls Ish-bosheth “righteous” by comparison to his attackers
Ish-bosheth had done nothing worthy of death, and yet they had betrayed his confidence by killing him in his bed
So David asks shouldn’t they have expected him to do as much to them as David did to the messenger before?
And at that moment, David has the men taken, killed, their hands and feet removed, and their bodies hung in Hebron by a pool
Interestingly, the battle between north and south got started at a peace negotiation around a pool
And now the conflict ends with David’s enemies hanging by a pool
Their bodies are a message that David doesn’t want help in this way
He is bound to respected the Lord’s anointed and will not reward those who do otherwise
Meanwhile, Ish-bosheth’s head is buried with Abner in a grave of honor
Even as David’s enemies fall and his path to the throne is cleared, David continues to respect the timing of the Lord in these things
Every time David resists the urge to force the outcome he wants or to reward those who act for him, the Lord blesses David
The more David seeks to keep his word to Saul’s house, the more the Lord acts in keeping with His word to David
Or to put it simply, the more David does the right thing, the more opportunity he gives God to bless David for doing so
I’m not saying that this was a quid pro quo relationship or even that David wouldn’t be king if he didn’t obey the Lord
I’m saying that there is an easy way to follow God or a hard way
When we obey the word of the Lord and keep our promises and live according to godliness, we follow the Lord closely
Like a child holding his father’s hand, we stand nearby and the walk is gentle and easy and the relationship is rewarding
But when we live a worldly, disobedient and ungodly life, we’re no longer walking side by side with the Father
We’re no less a child of the Father, nonetheless we’ve strayed away from His word and so we’ve left His company
He hasn’t walked away from us, but we’ve put distance between us and Him
We’ve gone from holding His hand to being dragged on a leash, and the experience goes from gentle to painful
That’s the hard way to follow the Lord, and though you still get to the place the Lord wants to take you, you won’t like the trip
When we take the easy way of obedience, yielding and righteousness, the Lord is in a position to bless us even as He keeps His promises to us
He will ensure our life is directed at our spiritual benefit, building us up through those experiences as He did David
He fights our battles, so we can sit back and trust in His control in the midst of the storm
Then when the time is right, the Lord will elevate us into the place He has prepared for us
So we have an easy way and a hard way to walk with Christ, and the difference is a matter of pride versus humility, trust versus control
David lived in an age when strong men took control, forced outcomes and killed anyone who stood in their way
But David was a man after God’s own heart, and God doesn’t work that way
The Lord doesn’t destroy His enemies…He shows them mercy
The Lord doesn’t break His promises…He keeps His word for generations and generations
The Lord doesn’t seek to please men…He acts for His own glory
And David was a man who thought in similar ways
David didn’t need to validate his authority and power by taking it from other men by force
David didn’t destroy those who opposed him because he knew that true authority doesn’t fear opposition
David kept his promises because he knew that if he protested his honor, God would protect him in all circumstances
And David often didn’t do what others expected of him because he was more concerned with what God expected
David’s patient, godly approach has brought him to this moment in God’s timing and with his honor intact
David didn’t need to grasp for the throne promised to him
He just needed to wait for God to give it to him
So the time has come for David to receive what God gave him
With Ish-bosheth gone and no one left to challenge David, all the elders of all the tribes come to David in Hebron to pledge their support and allegiance
They declare David is their flesh and bone, which is an important statement acknowledging David is king of all tribes, not just Judah
It’s a statement to the effect that Israel is one people, and it’s a temporary reversal of the north-south split that has emerged
David is reuniting the nation after seven years of rivalry
Secondly, they recognize that David has been the nation’s true shepherd even during Saul’s rule
David led Israel out and in, meaning in and out of battle successfully defeating Israel’s foes
And they recognized that the Lord had declared David would shepherd his people and be ruler over Israel
This is the first time in the Bible a human being is called a shepherd of people
So David’s right to rule Israel came down to three basic qualifications, which forevermore set the requirement to be king of God’s people
His human kinship with his people
His meritorious service to God’s people
And his divine election as shepherd
David met these qualifications in human terms, and Christ perfects them
Christ was born a man so He too is our flesh and bone
This allowed Jesus to take our place in God’s plan of redemption, to be our intercessor
Jesus rendered service to God’s people by living a perfectly righteous life in our place and giving Himself up to death for us
And He is divinely appointed as the Good Shepherd and the only name by which we may be saved
So once again, David entered into a covenant with all the elders of Israel at Hebron, and he is anointed King of Israel
The year is 1004 BC and this was his third such anointing as King
The first time was done by the prophet Samuel when David was a young boy
The second time was done by the elders of Judah when Saul died
And now for the third time the entire nation embraces David as king
David is now 30 years old, an age considered the ideal minimum age for a person to assume a leadership position governing God’s people
In fact, 30 is the age that several notable Bible characters assumed their first position of authority
Joseph was 30 when he ascended to the Pharaoh’s court
Priests didn’t begin their work in the tabernacle until age 30
Saul was 30 when he began to rule Israel
And of course, Jesus was 30 years old when He began His earthly ministry
Why is this the number God seems to prefer? It’s probably for two reasons…
First, it’s an age that generally means a person has moved beyond youthful ignorance and arrogance
Secondly, it’s young enough to still be teachable so that experience can be gained and applied over the years
Having said all that, Scripture never makes that age a biblical requirement for any purpose in the church today
Finally, David served a total of 40 years as king, including the seven years over Judah
This too is an interesting number, since we know the number 40 is the number of testing or trial
But it’s also the length of time for many notable events involving leaders of the nation
Moses led Israel in the desert for 40 years
Saul rules for 40 years, David rules for 40 years and Solomon rules for 40 years
Beyond any specific meaning in the number 40 or 30, the fact that these specific numbers reappear so consistently is proof of one thing
God is in control of the lives of these men, and all men and women, raising them up to serve in places He chooses
And assigning them to their place according to His timing
Even as David lives his life respecting God’s sovereignty, his life was itself a testimony to God’s control over all events
And even the timing of David ascent to the throne and the length of his service reflects God’s sovereignty
Seeing God in control to that degree gives us confidence to acknowledge that control in our lives
And to live with the same patience and humility that drove David